Best Friend vs. Guy friend?
So I've started talking to guys more often. I even have a few guy friends now which I am very proud of myself.
But now something else has come up. One of my close friends is obsessed with this guy. She clearly likes him a lot and all of our close friends know it as well. He doesn't know it though. When she first told me, I was like, "Oh, well that's great for you." But now as she is talking about him everyday in like every conversation we have, I'm beginning to have these feelings for this guy as well.
The weird part is, I have a few classes with him so we've started to talk occasionally about school, homework, our classes together, and we've even joked around and talked outside of the classroom, (not outside the school, just not during class time.) Some of my friends (not her) think that he likes me and he may even ask me out. I kind of don't and do want to hear that at the same time. This boy is super nice to me, but he doesn't know that one of my best friends like him. I haven't told anyone yet that I like him and my friend does not know. But at the same time, I would feel so, so bad if I started flirting back with this guy because she really likes him. At the same time I really like this guy as well. I just don't know what to do.
do you *really* like this guy?
Do you really like this guy? You said you only started liking him after your friend started talking about him all of the time. This is normal, but it's not a sign that you really like him.
Also, how close are you with your friends? Are you ready to throw away your friendship for this guy? Because that is likely what it will become, if he does ask you out, and you say yes.
If you really want to date him anyway, at least tell your friend that you like him first. That way, she won't feel as betrayed if/when you start going out with him.
Regards,
Jude
Well that is somewhat the
Well that is somewhat the point. I am not sure that I totally like him right now. I also have not flirted with him to the point that my girlfriend would be mad at me for. But this guy is expecting something from me and my friend isn't making a move at all. She just talks about him all the time while I actually talk to this guy and what not. I love this girl and would never want to hurt her if it just meant leaving this boy out of it. But I am kind of stuck in the middle. Now my friend since she has seen me talking to the boy. She wants me to talk about her in the guy and my conversations. I guess it's just hard because I am stuck in the middle of all this.
Be honest with your friend.
Be honest with your friend. Tell her what you're going to do before you do it.
It's hard, but it'll help in the long run.
Regards,
Jude