About Your Adviser

Hello. I'm Audrey. I'm 25 years old and I'm a writer and actor. I'm a friend of Jude's and when I heard about his site I offered to help him should he ever need it.

Though I have written stories and poems about love, portrayed all kinds of relationships on stage, and had my fair share of them as well, like Jude, I am not a professional 'love doctor' of any kind. I will give you advice as best I can and it is up to you whether or not you would want to take it.

There is no quick fix when it comes to love because it is an emotion and love is different for everyone. Some things will work for one person, and other things will not. If you ask 100 people the question 'what is love', you will most certainly get 100 different answers.

Romeo and Juliet's love is very different from the love of Elizabeth Bennet and Mr. Darcy, and those two are very different from the love of Superman/Clark Kent and Lois Lane. Also remember that these are stories. The writers had control over the love lives of their characters.

I do believe that through self examination and careful thinking, taking things slow, that eventually things will work out for the better. Rushing into a relationship may not be a good thing to do, nor is rushing through one like a baseball player that just struck a home run. Running all the bases at once can also lead to unhappy endings.

Just remember, the heart is a muscle and all the ups and downs that you go through in life only make it beat stronger.

About the Author

Hello. I'm Jude, 24 years old, and I recently graduated from a college in the Midwest. If you're wondering about what qualifies me to give advice, I can point to nothing except my experience giving advice. Please understand that I am not a professional and if you need serious help you are in the wrong place.

While a junior in high school, I made and edited a website, Teen Romance Hotline, that specialized in love advice "by teens for teens." The project was a success, earning me many e-mails from satisfied visitors, but in my senior year of high school, I had too much trouble with my own love life and I also became too busy to make any updates. During this time, the website closed.

In college, I was also too busy. But now that I've graduated, I find I have some free time, and as I was surveying the web, I realized that the love advice scene has not improved. Countless advice sites are still telling people there are easy, fast, proven ways to get the one you want, and people aren't encouraging each other to take a long-term view and think through situations.

I'm not a fan of quick fixes. I think people need to look to the future when making decisions. Now, I'm not a big fan of planning, because there's too much in life that can happen too fast, and some days may never come. But I do believe that thinking through the possibilities helps. And searching your heart-- which can take lots of time, and hurt significantly-- is preferable to "living in the fast lane," never having any time to recognize-- or appreciate-- the time you're having.

Too many times, people get involved in relationships because they think they "have to"-- that they'll be an outcast, or lonely if they don't. But we forget that relationships are also full of problems-- and sometimes, it's not worth it.

Through this website, I hope to help guide people to a deeper understanding of themselves, and of life. This understanding can only come from careful thought and struggle-- it isn't easy. But as Socrates said, "The unexamined life is not worth living."

What can a philosopher who lived 2000 years ago teach us today? Quite a lot. First, we have to think-- how could someone's words have survived more than 2000 years? Obviously, these words must have been very important to many people, and I think they can be important to you as well.

About the Website

The website has a lot of text, but I hope that most of it is useful to you. The site doesn't look great, but that's because I think it's more important to spend time giving people good advice than making the pages look good. Of course, if you disagree, you're welcome to help me improve the look and feel. Just send me a message through the contact form.